Boom operator at Film Outside the Frame, held at Paramount Pictures! That is Distinguished LMU Alumnus TV writer Melissa Blake and her husband writer/producer/director Roberto Orci. (at Paramount Pictures)

Boom operator at Film Outside the Frame, held at Paramount Pictures! That is Distinguished LMU Alumnus TV writer Melissa Blake and her husband writer/producer/director Roberto Orci. (at Paramount Pictures)

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Do You Love Someone With Depression?
If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.
Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.
1. Help them keep clutter at bay.
When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)
2. Fix them a healthy meal.
Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.
3.Get them outside.
 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.
4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.
If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.
5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.
Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.
6. Hug them.
Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.
7. Laugh with them.
Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.
8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.
Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.
9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.
A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”
10.Remind them why you love them.
Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.
(via The Darling Bakers)

More people need to know this.

This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.

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Do You Love Someone With Depression?

If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.

Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

(via The Darling Bakers)

More people need to know this.

This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.

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HE THOUGHT HIS LIL FRIEND GOT BAKED INTO A COOKIE I AM 100% DONE AWHH

(Source: swallowthesound, via thisfigureisbroken)

I feel like I’m going insane. So much stuff has been happening and I feel like I need to write about it, but I want to be anonymous, but I don’t? Does that make sense? I’m just going to talk about today.

But that actually starts with yesterday. Yesterday, I slept in for once, even though I had a project due at 7pm that night. I am in film school, and I had to edit a final cut of Gunsmoke on Avid, export it, and turn it in, with the bars and tones and blah blah blah at the beginning hitting the correct timestamp etc. I hate my rough cut, so I plan to redo the whole thing. (Mistake). Anyways, so I get up, I actually take my time making breakfast, getting ready, doing my hair, and my make up. I know I’m taking like 2 hours too long, but I’m thinking, “I deserve this,” because the past weekend I have scrambled and filmed a project at 6am, and editing, and had MAJOR problems exporting on Avid the night before, keeping me up until 3am as my body is recovering from a terrible sinus infection. I deserve this. So, long story short, everything is a disaster, my prof gets to the class at 7, I’m exporting (barely), I export it in the wrong dimensions, too bad. Fast forward to after class (10:30pm) I’m showing my friend the cut… I didn’t select one of the video tracks or something, so it’s missing like half of my cuts. It looks BAD. I go to open Avid on my computer… something has happened, and it is totally effed and won’t open. An error message appears telling me to call customer support. Great.

Luckily, I’m still at school, so I go back to the lab to export, only to find a plethora of new problems with my timeline… I export like 6 more times, changing things along the way (not even the cuts, just like, FORMATTING stuff), and finally, I get one that meets the criteria (though the sound is slightly off sync at the end). I email it to my professor with an explanation, and she states clearly on her syllabus no late work is accepted. I hope for the best, knowing I already have one strike against me for looking at mattresses online during class and getting caught (that’s a whole other story, why I was even doing that). 

So then I call Avid customer support. It is 1am. I am online with the technician working through my computer until about 3am, when it is fixed. I drive home.

Cut To: This morning, or afternoon should I say, when I woke up at 12:04pm. No email from my editing prof. Typical. She hates me, I’m sure. I deserve an F on that project. So I stay in bed, no glasses (I’m legally blind in both eyes), and watch youtube videos from my phone. One is a video my friend posted about veiling yourself in the presence of the Eucharist. This video hits me hard, because last weekend I visited home (to pick up my mom’s car, since I recently totaled mine… yeah), and told her about how my boyfriend and I plan to get married next year. Yay! She is excited. But then I explain to her that the reason I know he’s the one is that, “he brought me to Jesus.” This deeply offends my mom, who CLEARLY brought me to Jesus (you can be brought multiple ways, you know) at a young age. Which I never denied, and always cite in my testimony. But you know, he brought me to Jesus in the Eucharist. This leads to a 3 hour (no joke) diatribe from my mom, who is Protestant, explaining why there is nothing special about the Catholic host, that Orthodox Christians (Armenians, like us) are first, and even going so far as to say something about the Eurcharist (JESUS) I found truly offensive and made me feel extremely unsafe. I was persecuted, to say the least, by my own mother. So the video about veiling hit home. I cried… unabashedly cried. I need Jesus. I feel so much pain and aloneness. 

I finally decide to get up. I stand up, pretty blind, put my hand on my bedside table… into a cup full of juice and carbonated water that crashes down onto my brand new apartment’s white carpet. Luckily it was light juice, no visible damage I can see so far. I don’t even have carpet cleaner at my apartment yet. So I soak it up, spray Febreeze, put a fan on it and hope for the best.

Then I go to the kitchen make some tea. I put a bit of water in a pot, put the stove on high and leave. I go to my room and COMPLETELY forget about the boiling pot. I am scrolling through FB at this point and come across a post, and there is a picture of a woman sipping tea. BINGO. I go in the kitchen so find the pot, with the bottom RED hot, and the shape of the coils visible underneath. I take the pot off, go to my room, look up how the pot can be salvaged (I didn’t smell anything burnt, so I don’t think it’s too bad), and just wonder what in the hell is wrong with me. It’s 3pm, I have nothing to show for it, except a stained carpet, a burnt pot, and this ridiculous blog post.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinner now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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I’ve Got Pretty Friends: Redemption Edition #nyc #prettyfriends #wedgesweather

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I’ve Got Pretty Friends: Redemption Edition #nyc #prettyfriends #wedgesweather

Amy Poehler was new to SNL and we were all crowded into the seventeenth-floor writers’ room, waiting for the Wednesday read-through to start. There were always a lot of noisy ‘comedy bits’ going on in that room. Amy was in the middle of some such nonsense with Seth Meyers across the table, and she did something vulgar as a joke. I can’t remember what it was exactly, except it was dirty and loud and ‘unladylike.’

Jimmy Fallon, who was arguably the star of the show at the time, turned to her and in a faux-squeamish voice said, ‘Stop that! It’s not cute! I don’t like it.’

Amy dropped what she was doing, went black in the eyes for a second, and wheeled around on him. ‘I don’t fucking care if you like it.’ Jimmy was visibly startled. Amy went right back to enjoying her ridiculous bit. (I should make it clear that Jimmy and Amy are very good friends and there was never any real beef between them. Insert penis joke here.)

With that exchange, a cosmic shift took place. Amy made it clear that she wasn’t there to be cute. She wasn’t there to play wives and girlfriends in the boys’ scenes. She was there to do what she wanted to do and she did not fucking care if you like it.

Bossypants (Tina Fey)

(Source: whatbeautifulwords, via cryptographer)

The look today is called “8 hours of sleep/showered in last 24 hours/light make up/film school survivor.” If you didn’t know, it’s a miracle all of these circumstances conspired simultaneously. #survivor #lmu #sftv  (at Loyola Marymount University)

The look today is called “8 hours of sleep/showered in last 24 hours/light make up/film school survivor.” If you didn’t know, it’s a miracle all of these circumstances conspired simultaneously. #survivor #lmu #sftv (at Loyola Marymount University)

Epic selfie! #sftv #lmu

Epic selfie! #sftv #lmu

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